And Thy Staff Meeting Shall Comfort Me

 Entry 1     9:36 a.m.

I am at work. Jenny texted me to tell me pain woke her up and she can't get out of bed. I called her and she couldn't stop crying. I tried to comfort her by acknowledging the hell she is going through and telling her I love her, but my words are about as useful as a screen door on a submarine. The suffering just keeps washing over her, and here I am, ineffectual.  

I called her friend Heather, the one who just cancelled or postponed her trip to London to be around to help Jenny. She is on her way over. Leiney is with Jenny now, but it's too much to expect her to do on her own. Please let Jenny make it through her birthday.

Entry 2 7:11 p.m.

Murray and Marianne were over this afternoon. I left work and picked Leiney up, ostensibly to go Christmas shopping but really to get her out of the house for a bit. She came, but was tired, and I brought her home soon after going shopping at the first store. She is a bit under the weather.

I went out a bit on my own and did some more Christmas shopping. When I got home, Jenny and company were leaving to have dinner with a 4th teacher Lori, who has stage IV ovarian cancer at 77. Jenny told me she tried to eat, but threw up her food almost immediately. Lori didn't eat at all. [I found out later that el pinché was also in attendance.]

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