Stop Breakin' Down

Entry 1.    11:54 a.m.

Now, I Give My Baby, Now, The Ninety-Nine Degree

First, the puppy is better.  Huge relief.  Huuuuuuge relief.  I laid with her on the floor last night, keeping the sick and lethargic puppy company, like a scared dad.  But, today, back to rambunctious and frolicking behavior.    

Abby and I agreed last night we'd head over to Goodwill to buy lots of old CDs, her latest hobby--a throwback chip off the old block.  We got in my 2005 Jeep Grand Jalopy, I started the car and backed around the corner to change direction.  When I put the car back in drive, the dashboard warning light lit up like Seattle's 1st Avenue in 1985, red lights flashing everywhere.  The electronic ABS system had experienced failure. I am grateful that it didn't happen last night as I drove from my friend Paul's house down 23rd towards Montlake (after an amazingly great dinner and company, btw).  But, I am afraid its time to put the old Jeep out to pasture.  

We did make it to Goodwill, where Abby bought an alarming number of Dixie Chick cds, amongst other cds more in alignment with my taste.  Abby drove her car, and has become an excellent driver.

Entry 2.  8:25 p.m.

I Got Mixed-Up Confusion,  I Believe It's Killing Me

The road to acceptance has many switchbacks. Remember last night's entry about Jenny finally coming to grips with the stark reality of the end path of this disease? From Jenny this afternoon:

"I feel so much better today.  I don't feel like it's the beginning of the end. I'm sorry about last night. "


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