Leaving On A Jet plane

Entry 1     6:21 a.m.

At the airport, waiting to board. Airports always make me sad, remind me of leaving the kids every Sunday for a year and a half. Abby told me the other day she didn't understand I was leaving to go live and work elsewhere at the time. It was only when we arrived at the airport that she understood. She said she cried all the way home.

This morning I am working on happier thoughts. Sun, sand, smog and serendipity are what I am counting on in California.

Leiney slept for an hour, she is going to be wiped out. Abby had no comment, except a teenage shrug, when queried about her sleep. I, remarkably, slept 4.5 hours. Perhaps more remarkable, Abby was up, dressed and ready to go at 5:15 when the Uber arrived. She did manage to use a full-sized suitcase, which (since I gave her a carry-on sized bag last night) surprised me, my wallet, and how I envisioned exiting the plane

I didn't want to wake the
dragon, so this is the best
I could do snapping a
picture of Abby.
would be.

The ghost of Jenny is everywhere here, in everything we do, everywhere we go. Despite all of it, I miss her. The kids miss her, although I can't gauge Abby's level of sorrow (or any other emotion). I am sure Disney will memory after memory for all of us, of good times spent in almost bliss.

Entry 2    1:30 p.m.

The sun is murderously hot, and I am okay with that. We are in Socal, chilling for a bit before we head over to Riverside to see Alice. I am tired, but not stressed. This is going to be a great 8 Days. 



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