She Sells Sanctuary

4:10 a.m. 


The house is ridiculously decked out in Christmas decorations, but it needs more. I need more. I went shopping this morning. There were no hoards, no thronging masses. At Cost Plus, there were 8 or nine sales people and us, Abby and I. 

I am a lost soul. I sit alone in the dark, listening to Yeats put to music by Mike Scott, an island of candles burning and making the house smell of Christmas.

Tears are rolling down my cheeks, as I go to the well again and again for more strength, trying to power through. It's not working, I am simply filled with sorrow and ever more tears.

The early dark doesn't help the situation.  I have turned to candles to make the house more festive, to perfume the air.

 

4:15 p.m.

The girls and I have been out all day, shopping for Christmas items, after a hearty breakfast at the Pancake Haus. Small Business Saturday in downtown Burien and the holiday festival at the Piazza in Renton, both fell short of expectations. This is an us thing, not a Burien or Renton thing. The Piazza was a terrible bust, just awful. But, we went into every small business, until we hit St. Charles Place antiques and that is where we hit gold. The place is a rabbit warren, and feels more a hoarder's

den than antique store. Nevertheless, the owner was having his SBS sale, and we stumbled upon a hodgepodge of post cards, some as old as 1904--and tons of Christmas pics. Abby and I were hooked. I bought bought a bunch. I am going to frame them, if we can find any decent frames, and use them to decorate during the holidays. 

The girls lifted my spirits today, they just have that quality. We enjoy hanging out together. Back home, I am less happy than I would like to be. Off to the grocery store with Leiney.










































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































Comments

  1. AshleyNovember 27, 2022 at 12:00 AM

    I LOVE St Charles Place! He does restoration work too- and is honest about what he can do, how much it will cost and whether you should just have him look for a replacement (if the item does not hold deep sentimental value). I am a tad afraid to go in there as there is so much awesome STUFF.

    Sending plenty aloha your way.

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